Stages of teenage dating
If there were major failings in the woman, why did he choose her and what about himself allowed him to stay?
Acceptance of his own role in this life calamity will help him to avoid problems with the next relationship.
It is an additional tragedy that men are often the most reluctant to seek professional help, viewing it as a sign of unacceptable weakness.
Of course violence is not the most common response to the loss of a relationship but we are all familiar with the many other coping strategies that are less than helpful.
A man who is losing his partner will feel out of control of his life.
Anger can be a tool to regain power, punishing with words and deeds the person who seems to be causing the pain. “She cheated on me, she was always drinking, she was a lousy wife/mother/sister.” We have all heard these howls from our friends who are separated.
Anger also interferes with the ability to adapt and grow.
To form good relationships men need to learn from the relationship that is ending. In what way can he be a better husband or boyfriend in the future.
That men can have extreme reactions should not come as a surprise.Almost every week there is a story somewhere in the media of a man who has taken the life of a partner who has rejected him.All too often children are also the victims of these tragic events.Anger and denial interfere with the ability to heal from the loss and, eventually, to form new relationships.We all know people who have been separated for long periods (sometimes years) who are difficult to be with because they remain focused on their anger at a former spouse.